**This post was originally from 2015, but wanted to updated it as I feel the topic is still very relevant**
So I am sitting here watching the movie Mean Girls and, don’t get me wrong, I love this movie, but one thing stuck out to me today that has never stuck out in the 2304937583 times that I have seen it. There is a scene when Cady first starts to hang out with the plastics, and she goes to Regina’s house for the first time. All the girls are staring in the mirror saying things they don’t like about their body’s and Cady thinks to herself
I used to only think there was just fat and skinny. But apparently there can be a lot of things that are wrong on your body.
and it hit me. From a young age we are programmed to hate our bodies. Our society tells us what is “hot, pretty, perfect, beautiful” etc. and that we should all strive to be the same.
Something I have learned from my journey to live a healthy and balanced life is the importance of SELF LOVE; to love my body and all its “flaws”. To not strive to be skinny but to be healthy.
But what does it mean to be healthy? Well, that’s different for everybody. There is no cookie cutter definition of what it means to be healthy. It is however you define it for yourself.
If you are a little confused, here are some things that I define as healthy for myself:
- To love and be comfortable in my own skin
- To be stronger and better than the person I was yesterday
- To make sure my body is fully functioning to the best of its capabilities
- To be happy
And that is really it. I do not strive to look a certain way. I do not strive for a thigh gap because in reality, the way my body is structured, it is physically impossible for me to have one. Trying to look like someone else or be a certain weight won’t get me to my state of healthy. I have hips, I have thighs. But I want to build my curves.
One of the many quotes that put a lot into perspective for me was
You are not fat, You have fat. Like how you have fingernails. You have fingernails but you are not fingernails.
I don’t see myself as fat, just certain areas that may have fat, and I know that can reduce in time with consistency of a good diet and exercise. That is what I hope to teach others.
You are perfect just the way you are. If you want to change your life, go for it! But do it to become a better you, not as a punishment to yourself. Not to become what our society thinks is beautiful or perfect.
And you sure as hell should not be doing it for anyone else but yourself. Actually, I take that back. The only exception to loosing weight or getting healthy for someone else is if you are doing it for family and loved ones. To make sure that you can stick around and be there for them for as long as possible because your current state is a high health risk.
If you are happy, that is all that matters. Don’t strive for anything except a better you.
XO – Simmone